Primary and secondary infertility. Recurrent pregnancy loss. PCOS. Insulin Resistance. Low progesterone. Vitamin D deficient. 3 1/2 years and 3 (more) clomid cycle cautiously expecting #2!

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Jump then fall

Okay, so my title was going to be "what's next?" but I was listening to Pandora and this song just came on. Kind of appropriate... considering choices while dealing with infertility really can be a jump then fall.

I've been wondering a lot about what's next. I've read many people's blogs, stories much similar to mine, and have seen a few who chose to start pursuing adoption. They've been dealing with IF or RPL issues just like me and sometimes for less time than I have so it brings me the question, what makes people pursue adoption so quickly? Or is it not "quickly"... rather that I'm behind? If that makes any sense.

I love seeing people's adoptions stories, I honestly am excited to see their updates. It just makes me wonder... where my husband and I are on the next step. And what is the next step? We haven't done everything obviously - It's been 3 years 4 months since we started TTC our second bundle of joy and have had two miscarriages since then. What should we do next? We've been doing charting for the last 12 months and the rest of the time was just having sex when we wanted to. I've done clomid two cycles about 12 months ago as well, but felt like I was too emotional on it. Come to find out... I'm just emotional!

I think we will start with 3-6 months of clomid again and see how it goes. I know clomid dries up CM so I'll be doing everything in my power those cycles to keep a "hospitable environment". But what's next after clomid? I honestly think we'll be heading down the road to IUI, but IVF afterward ? I really don't know! What has been every one's experience with IVF? How do you afford it? I'm worried since my husband and I are saving for the future since in 2 1/2 years he'll be civilian bound so I don't see how that can be an affordable option after IUI if we cannot get pregnant.

So my question for every one - what made you decide to go onto IUI, IVF or adoption? I'd love to hear from others!


Tiffany said...

When we first figured out that we weren't going to get pregnant easily, we set up a plan-ish. We originally planned on doing a few IUIs. Maybe 3? And then if those failed, we would move on to IVF. We did one IUI, BFN. We were supposed to do another one, I didn't ovulate that month. Then we were supposed to do one more, but we didn't get the chance before Kyle deployed. Shortly after he returned home from deployment, I hit my breaking point and we just stopped TTC. I was done for awhile. After several months, I decided I was ready again. We were still planning on doing IVF sometime in the coming months. But then, we started discussing options. We realized that if we attempted IVF and it failed, we would be done for several years until we could save up the money to move on to adoption. We didn't like the sound of that at all. At that point, we had just passed the 3 year mark of TTC and I could not fathom waiting 3 more years. We decided that for us, it was much more importnant to be parents, than to be pregnant. It was an easy choice for us. And that is how we got to where we are today.
And I have come to realize that I wish we would have stopped TTC a long time ago, and moved on to adoption. But that is just my personal opinion. i never thought I would be willing to give up trying to get pregnant, but then one day, it just hit me. You'll know when it's time to call it quits, if it is ever time. It's different for everyone.
Good luck!

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